What Soured the Relationship in the Past?

A fractured relationship with an adult child is a heartbreaking reality for many parents today. In this first video, psychologist and counsellor Dr. John Townsend describes some of the most common relationship dynamics that lead an adult child to distance themselves from their parents.

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After watching video one, consider taking these steps to get the most out of this part of the series:

// Step 1

Answer these discussion questions:

1. 1. Do you believe that your adult child is harbouring resentment towards you? If so, has your child ever given a reason for their resentment? How did you respond to your child at the time?
      
      
   2. What is likely to happen if you leave things as they are? Do you think your relationship with your adult child will improve on its own?

// Step 2

Read and meditate on this verse: “For we all stumble in many ways. And if anyone does not stumble in what he says, he is a perfect man, able also to bridle his whole body.” (James 3:2 ESV)

// Step 3

Spend time in prayer:

Heavenly Father,
You know us intimately, and no one is blameless before you. We know we have not been perfect parents – far from it. We acknowledge and regret our mistakes. Right now it feels as if we are being punished very harshly by our child for our failings. We’re so grateful that you don’t do that. Because of Christ, you do not hold our sins against us. Thank you that we can trust you to help us reconcile with our child.
Amen.

// Step 4

Read the article “Are you saying the wrong things to your adult kids?” for more guidance on how parents can avoid creating friction in their relationship with their adult child.

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