7 Steps to a Healthier Marriage video series

How to Care for Yourself in the Midst of Conflict

Now that you and your spouse know your buttons, your reactions and your wants, what do you do with that information? It may be tempting to look outward and attempt to change your spouse, but as Vicki Hooper explains in this video, that should not be your focus. You cannot change or control your spouse, but you can take responsibility for yourself – even when your buttons get pushed. Watch as she explains the five steps of the Care Cycle and why it’s essential to your marriage.

Get more out of this series!

After watching video 5, follow these steps to get the most out of this part of the series:

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Read and meditate on this verse: “And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.” (Mark 12:30)

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Download the “Care Cycle” that Vicki mentions in the video. You and your spouse should each have a copy. Put it somewhere you can grab if you need a reminder – or save it on your phone.

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Read the article “How to care for our unique emotions” by Tara Lalonde as she further explains the five steps of the Care Cycle.

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Read the article “Why self-care is important to your marriage” to address the misconception that self-care is selfish and better understand what you need to fill your emotional tank.

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Move on to the next video to discover how you and your spouse can deepen your connection through communication.