In previous years, people have assumed that trauma manifests itself as flashbacks. However, current trauma research shows that many mental and emotional health symptoms have their roots in unresolved trauma, and many people who are triggered experience the emotion of the traumatic incident as if it were happening in real-time, even years or decades later. In this video, registered psychotherapist Tara Lalonde offers practical ways to explore if unresolved trauma is part of your story.
After watching video 3, follow these steps to get the most out of this part of the series:
// Step 1
Read and meditate on this verse: “The Lord is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth. He fulfills the desire of those who fear him; he also hears their cry and saves them.” (Psalm 145:18-19)
// Step 2
Download and work through the PDF “Is Unresolved Trauma Part of My Story?” to go through the same steps Tara outlines in the video above.
// Step 3
Ask yourself the following questions:
// Step 4
Read the article “Bursting negative thought bubbles” for a list of cognitive distortions, or negative procedural maps. While these are often talked about in the context of anxiety, they may also be the result of unresolved trauma.
// Step 5
Listen to the Focus on the Family Broadcast “Finding Hope Again” with Kay Warren as she explains how childhood trauma and/or mental illness can make people susceptible to depression and even suicidal thoughts, and encourages us to focus on what Jesus accomplished on the cross.
Reach out to our counsellors if you need help. Focus on the Family Canada has a team of in-house registered Christian counsellors who will listen to you and point you to where you can find help and support if you are dealing with unresolved trauma. Call 1.800.661.9800 weekdays from 8 a.m. to 4 p.m. Pacific time to book a free one-time phone counselling consultation and to get a referral to a counsellor in your area. For more information, visit FocusOnTheFamily.ca/Counselling.
© 2025 Focus on the Family (Canada) Association. All rights reserved.
Toll-free 1.800.661.9800